So someone actually read the Woman 2K5 article and thinks it’s bogus. Well I am not one to just sit back and get corrected without fighting back (a little).
Real Woman 2K5: “No powerful, woman is going to the places you go to. If she is, she is a fraud. Yes, we live the double standard, but so what? I use it to my advantage in the business world. I’ve been noted as a hard-ass when conducting business, but that’s only when making the deal. Forming the relationship is half the battle and you go from there. Same goes for relationships….but i’m an old fashion girl deep down….i like when a guy comes up to me, makes the first move. Is that so wrong? When a girl comes up to you, you automatically think “score” isn’t that a double standard?”
Jordan 2K5: “Good points. Let’s take them one at a time shall we?
1. I agree that hot clubs do not usually attract the high powered femme fatales I was describing. That said, why can’t the women who actually do go to the hot clubs be confident enough to do the approaching? They are still women, right? Let’s be honest: women who go to clubs wearing less than nothing don’t exactly what a book club partner. They are only going out dressed like that for three reasons: 1) to get looked at and thus boost their self-esteem, 2) get some action, and 3) a combination of 1 and 2. If they are in the 2 or 3 group then why play coy? Go after it. You think guys will respect you less or think you are desperate? They don’t respect you already and everyone knows how desperate guys are in general.
Now let’s go back to the high-powered business woman. Why can’t she make a move at a business meeting, office function, nice party, friends soiree, etc? I agree that it’s nice to be old fashioned. Things like chivalry are going out the window quicker than a fat kid down a hill. But I’m not saying that just because a woman has to initiate the conversation by saying “hi” it doesn’t mean the man will now get pregnant and wear the blahnik’s. If women can bring it in the workplace like a man, she should be able to say “hello, can I buy you a drink?” at a social function.
2. When a real girl actually comes up to me I usually think she’s lost. If it turns out that they have a thing for “special” guys and she actually wanted to speak to me then I think it is charming and refreshing. I do not judge whatsoever. And I do not think “score” (whatever that means). All I am saying is that it would be wonderful for an actual nice woman to come over than one who is either really drunk or really an unsavory bus skank. Confidence is sexy.
3. Yes there is a super double standard. Truth. But guys pay for all the food so I feel we deserve something. When guys are super cocky girls like it (ok, not all but let’s be honest, more than there should be). “Ooh, this guy is full of himself, he must be so hot!” When a woman is super confident guys don’t automatically think “slut.” Unless she is a slut. Then guys think she is a slut. But not if she is just a nice, confident woman asking to buy us a drink, or take a walk, or for a quickie in the bathroom.
Bam, what say you now?
